hide 'n seek, vol. 2 and more

i was thinking about a gchat conversation with naureen (feb. 20), where we talked about (not) wanting more from our romantic relationships. interestingly, we both reacted to the 136 line conversation here and here, which makes me smile.  i'm always holding something back.

 

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on a somewhat related note, also thinking about the importance of sex in relationships, a theme of several conversations in the past few months. 

 

a.  it's important.  my friend asked randomly and angrily, "do you remember you told me four years ago, sex is really important."  me, "it still is important."  i don't know why he is so angry.  recently, he sneers, "are you just doing this to get some?"  i don't know why he would think that, and even if it were true, why that would be worth trying to make me feel bad.

b.  to what extent?  another friend laments his sex-less relationship and wants to break things off (not just because of that, but you know, sex is important).  i feel bad for everyone.

c.  understanding no sex before marriage.  i used to think people who believed it were silly and kind of hypocritical.  worse, the rule was actually harmful.  i've come around to understanding it, sort of. 

• there's the religious variety:  if you believe the stuff, you should follow the rules, right?  so right on, for following your principles! 
• there's the keeping it special variety:  you want to do something special with your partner.  i think that makes sense.  although, i don't see why it couldn't be another activity, like rock climbing or skydiving or gardening.  :) 

d.  how we represent ourselves.  there's this question on that dating site, six things you couldn't live without that i didn't answer.  okay it's easy:  food/water, sleep, sex, sunshine, friends/family, and hmm, i don't know the last one.  maybe music or books?  i didn't want to get the wrong kind of people though!