i read an article last night encouraging single women to stop being so picky and to just get married before it's too late. it made me feel generally bad even though i already believe most of the things the article points out -- relationships are compromise, love is about commitment not passion/romance, no one is perfect, etc.
i was just trying to get the scoop on the presidential primaries, not trying to get commentary on my life. i suppose it is my fault for taking it so personally. i should have known better than to check the atlantic, which published a logically-hard-to-follow piece supporting obama. i should be able to dismiss this the way i can dismiss the obama piece.
when enough people bother me about this stuff though, it's hard not to feel bad. i fell asleep with a sense of desperation that i don't think i've ever felt and woke up in a generally bad mood that even the sunshine has not been able to make go away.
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i just read the article, and i agree with a lot of the points she makes about settling. i guess it's sorta like arranged marriages - you'll eventually come to love the man you marry (even if you don't fall IN love with him). sometimes i wonder if arranged marriages are the way to go...there seems to be plenty of success stories from that!
i usually try to be flippant about being single and embrace it, but sometimes (esp around vday, grr) i can't help but feel wistful. you know it's a totally commercialized holiday and you say things like "why do people need one day to show their love? they should show it every day!" but you also see couples together and it just hits harder than normal.
i hope you are able to shake the feeling because in the end, i don't think you'll feel like you're settling when you do get married. you'll find the one guy who meshes with you, and it'll be perfect :) but until then, let's be valentines!
oh kat, you're very thoughtful. remember our date on 2/14/06? at bow thai in san mateo?
that was fun :)
i do! it was uber fun and you were a great date -- couldn't have asked for more :)
Honey, you're way too young to worry about this with the same level of bitterness that the author holds. (I'm surprised she didn't choke halfway through writing it) They're valid concerns -- but they're also the kind for you to wrap in the freezer until your 38th birthday.
aw, yah i know flora... i have this bad habit of worrying about every imaginable thing :)
consider it in the freezer for now!
i got your wedding invitation in the mail, yay! i'll see you in march.
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